All of our relationships are co-created … which mean they depend on the mutual energy and attention of both parties. So, when one person is temporarily checked out, there are consequences. Most people don’t even realize that they aren’t really showing up in their lives. They go through the motions … and as long as nothing bad happens, they assume that this is what life is all about. It isn’t. This is a numbing strategy that insulates us from experience in a way that has far-reaching consequences on every personal and professional relationship we have. So, think about YOUR life. Where are you not showing up? And why?
There’s reason they tell you on an airplane to put the oxygen mask on yourself before you put it on your children. If you don’t take care of yourself first, you won’t be able to help anyone else. So, who are you really helping in this situation? No one. You need to be in the driver’s seat of your life. For some, that kind of ownership feels like overwhelming responsibility. Well, if that is the case, I have a secret to tell you. You only get one life and you’ve always been in the driver’s seat. Choosing to let someone else decide where you go feels easier, but in the end, it will leave you stuck in an unfamiliar place that you never actively chose for yourself. So, take the wheel! Your fulfillment is all that matters in this world. If you are happy, then everyone around you, including your children, will be happy.
So, let go of what doesn’t serve you. Realize that divorce can be a gift to you and your family. If you keep looking backward, you can never see the world of possibility in front of you. Believe that you deserve far more in your life than settling for an unfulfilling marriage. Listen to your intuition. Believe it before you waste more of your life being unhappy. And accept that there are better things waiting for you.
